I'm going to say it right now. I think you can guess from the title, this is a daunting topic. Let's hope I did it right. If I didn't, feel free to share your views. Despite the slight irritation in the tone of the post, I'm 100% bent on listening to all sides. Anyway, back to my main point: this post is about something that's troubled me about blogging since the beginning. I've questioned this topic over and over again - especially since I have NEVER read a post on it. That could be because I shouldn't be talking about it? But hey, since when I was ever one to follow the rules?
To put it simply: I feel like I'm the ONLY person who dislikes other bloggers.
Jeez. That was hard to get out.
My favorite thing to do is always to compare the blogging community to my friend group in school or to a workplace. Why? Because that's the easiest way to describe a group of people who [I assume] share similar interests and/or do the same things.
When I go to school, there are a million and one people who are constantly talking shit, spreading rumors and just being awful. When I got to blogging, I was surprised at how loving people are. We're spreading comment-love, following each other on twitter and squealing about books. My twitter stream is always full of normal people having fun conversations. So either they really are that loving, I'm missing all the blogger vs. blogger drama or it's very hush hush. Regardless, I've spent the past ___ years thinking that I'm the only person who gets into issues with other blogger. That I'm an asshole for disliking another blogger.
Recently, I talked to a few bloggers over DM while we vented about things we disliked in blogging. People came up and we shared experiences that happened in the past. One that I talked about was how I was accused of plagiarizing from other blogger. [We've got a mutual block goin' on.] It's one of those private conversations as I feel we are allowed to have; where "what gets said in DM, stays in DM." I quickly realized that everyone has people they dislike - but even more important is the way we treat those people in spite of disliking them.
There are quite a few bloggers that I don't see eye to eye with. Some of them, I've personally gotten into kerfuffles [lol, that word] with and I no longer want to be buddy-buddy with. Some, I just stay away from because to me, they're problematic and I don't want to be involved with that kind of drama. In one case, I feel like the blogger used me as a promotion minion! Do I still feel a little miffed when I see them somewhere: yes, I'm human. But despite all of this, I would never publicly say that, "this blogger is a (derogatory comment here.)" There is a huge difference between disliking a person and being a bad person and I have no idea why but it took me so long to realize this.
This brings me to the title of the post: The blogging community isn't unconditional love towards everyone, even though that's what it always seems like to me. We're all human and we all have our likes and dislikes. Are we classy about keeping that information to ourselves or people we trust? Hell yes. And that's why I love this place. I'm sure there are a shitload of people who dislike me and that's totally fine. I don't care about what people think of me; I care about how they treat me. And when those two ideas become both negative, that's when I have a problem.
So even though I don't have a social justice point to prove, I felt the need to write this post. To dispell the myth of, "every blogger supports/loves every blogger." And I know that's not the answer want to hear but I'd rather dish out the truth than some candy-coated downplay. There are always going to be people who don't like and people we don't want to interact with. I'm writing this for Past Nova, who constantly felt like a bad person for her feelings. You are not a bad person for disliking a blogger just like you aren't a bad person for disliking a book. I'm almost a hundred percent sure that all of us dislike some bloggers out there; we're just classy about our feelings - as we should be.
I'm a little shocked that no one's ever talked about this! Whoa. Am I the first? I know it's hard to talk about more negative things but still. And if I am the first, I encourage you to spill everything! Just please; it goes without saying but if you're going to talk about your experiences, please don't mention the name of the person who was involved. Focus on the situation - not the other party. Have you ever felt like a bad person because you disliked another blogger? Even worse, when everyone else seems to love that person?
Hi, Nova! I think it is wonderful that you wrote this post. Although I am pretty much new to the blogosphere, I was hoping it was all sugar and spice and everything nice (and yes, I am quoting the Powerpuff Girls. Don't judge me. Actually go ahead, I really don't care.) But it seems that we are all indeed human and we have feelings and make mistakes. So I guess what I'm saying is that we have every right to have our own opinions of things and can choose to not like or like something (even if others disagree with us). But as you said, we should not go around pointing fingers and being rude/malicious towards others' opinions. We should all build a supportive community, not (as you also said) built on unconditional love, but on respect (for each other and our differences).
ReplyDeleteOh, you're new? I hope this post didn't scare you off. If you keep digging, I have a bunch of posts on how we're awesome and fabulous. I don't want to give you a hugely negative impression either.
DeleteWe all have friends who support us and love us and they're the biggest part of the community because we interact with them frequently. So I encourage you to find an awesome friend group [if you haven't already] and to interact so the blogosphere DOES feel like sugar and spice and everything nice!
I've had my blog for about 2 months now, and I only started reaching out and commenting on others' blogs about a week or two ago, so I'd say I'm a newbie. Everyone does seem nice so far, so you haven't scared me off, but I have heard that there's been a lot of drama lately from some friends I have (that happen to be bloggers). I guess I'm still trying to find my "group", but I honestly like floating around randomly too… I probably will do that a bit more, but hopefully one day I'll have my own blogger friend group thing though :)
DeleteYou are definitely not alone in this! I have some bloggers that just annoy me. There's been some bloggers I've because their tweets just anger me. And just like you said, realistically, we're not all going to like each other. I just try to ignore them. I haven't gotten into any arguments and I'd like to keep it that way. And love the post because you're right, I don't think anyone has really talked about this.
ReplyDeleteI don't think anyone really goes into it trying to piss other people off. At least, people with class, right? And thank you for your kind comments! I was a little unsure about this post at first, tbh.
DeleteThis is actually a genius post, Nova. :) You're right, I'm sure a lot of dislike or will eventually dislike at least someone in the blogosphere. I know I do. I haven't had any real problem with any, and I hope I don't bc the blogging and bookish community is kind pf my safe place. But I do disagree with the way some bloggers think, and act. As you point out, basically, we're entitled to feel what we feel, but we're awesome because we manage to be civil most of the time and treat others with respect in spite of the differences. (Again, most of the time!)
ReplyDeleteSorry for the typos and missing words! This is my replying to awesome blogpost with phone writing so I apologize!
DeleteI've unfortunately had a LOT of problems. I think this is mainly due to my personality. I'm not the kind of person to be held back and a lot of people take it the wrong way. *shrugs* I don't really think I need to change but I'm glad that you don't go through a lot of drama.
DeleteLots of the people here make blogging worthwhile, though!
I'm still relatively new to the blogging community, and so far all I've seen from everyone is that they seem to get along. And while I'd like to believe that it's all sunshine and rainbows between all, I know that there's likely those who don't get along. I had a feeling that, since I was new, I wouldn't be seeing it as I didn't know anyone. I still haven't seen any bad blood between people, but I know that soon the shiny newness will wear off and I'll see the bad side soon.
ReplyDeleteI know that what I just said really doesn't make ANY sense, but I guess what I'm saying is that there's going to be the inevitable arguments. We don't have to love everyone, but respect each other and be civil. Don't let the people you don't like bring out the worst in you. They aren't worth it. They aren't worth potentially giving you a bad name or something. We all know those kind of people and can't allow them to know how much they bother us.
Sorry for this rambling mess. As I said before, I tend to ramble and never make sense.
It isn't good to see discord so I'm glad you haven't seen any.
DeleteAnd haha, I don't think it was a ramble. I found it insightful.
You already know how I feel about this, but still let me share what I think about the post.
ReplyDeleteEven though our community is a loving and friendly one, there are some bad nuts here and there, and it's inevitable that we feel emotions of animosity and dislike to certain bloggers. It's not wrong. It's human. And even the bestest of friends can have fall outs and problems, so it's normal to end up hating or disliking a blogger too. After all, didn't that just happen to us today?
However, I just want to point out, that even though people can hate, we're also capable of forgiving and reconciling and we also need to keep that in mind.
DeleteTo be honest, I don't really care enough to dislike people. The bloggers I'm friends with, obviously I love. The bloggers I'm not friends with, I don't waste energy thinking about when they annoy me. So if I get agitated by something they do it'll pass in about 5 seconds because they're basically strangers and what's the point in holding a grudge against someone you'll never even meet?
ReplyDeleteThat is kind of how I am. I feel I don't know any of the bloggers well enough to hate them, they've never done anything to me so why should I care?
DeleteThat's totally fine but not everyone feels that way, [as seen by the other comments] so even though you do, not everyone has skin as thick as yours.
DeleteIt always feels a little taboo doesn't it Nova, but I do, have my issues with some bloggers. Some I just can't deal with, some it feels as though they're too high and mighty for me, some just seem to ignore all their followers and bask in the popularity and soak up sorrow and guilt from others when bad things happen to them and rarely give back, and it sucks, and that annoys me, but it's like I can't talk about it. Don't get me wrong, I'd say at least 70% of the community nice to each other, but you're right, we earn each other's trust and respect, we don't just get it, we have to work at everything, and damn right at it. I don't love every blogger I meet, I have to get to know them and do it with time. Damn Nova, this is a good post, you got me thinking about a post I have written but am nervous to post about the community and changes and bloggers leaving.. This is great though! :D
ReplyDeleteI think that in problems like that, you should talk about it - but you should talk to someone you trust and try not to mention names. More like, focus on the problem, not the person who's causing it. Weird advice, I know, but I've found that it helps.
DeleteI also think that even though we lose respect, it's possible to gain it back or to fix friendships. Sometimes, I'm quick to judge other bloggers and i have to remind myself that it's wrong.
Oooh I've been waiting for someone to do a post like that for a while!
This is, like, SO IMPORTANT. The camaraderie of the book blogosphere is amazing, but we should never feel forced to think the best of everyone. I personally dislike some bloggers for such trivial reasons -- I mean, you raise excellent points about why you dislike them, but my reasons can literally be, "Your Tweets sound so weird and artificial." and that would be IT.
ReplyDeleteBut I think the most important thing for us to keep in mind is that even if we don't like someone, we shouldn't be rude or anything to them. I mean, I've given writing feedback to people I've found annoying before, and I leave comments on blogs I don't like if they have a great post, and I have changed my mind about these people and blogs before. (I have also decided I dislike someone after a while, but that's a whole new hornet's nest.) Just because we dislike someone doesn't mean we can't get along them at a reasonably far distance.
So, basically, AMAZING POST Nova.
I don't think anyone is valid to explain why they dislike someone. Just like I don't like... kale or something. I don't have to be like, here's a powerpoint on why i don't like it. But at the same time, I'm not going to go to the grocery store and ruin the section on kale [can you tell i'm on sugar because i'm so weird rn] Basically to me, we can think whatever we want, until our actions hurt someone. then it isn't okay.
Deleteoh yeah! that is SO IMPORTANT. sometimes, you think you dislike someone and then you stay civil and realize that you were so wrong. that realization would've never happened had you been rude to them. i find that an open mind can really help sometimes!
YES. Thank you for this. I was actually thinking about this just last night, so this reached me at just the right time. There are definitely some bloggers I don't like. Not many, because I'm fairly new to the blogging world, and I'm also just a pretty accepting person in general, but there are always going to be some people who rub me the wrong way or whose personalities have major clashes with mine, and I'm glad to find I'm not alone in that, when everyone else in the blogosphere *looks* like they're getting along just great. Thanks again! Such a great post.
ReplyDeletethere's one blogger who wrote some homophobic stuff and i was trying to be like, "ive been your friend for years so i'm gonna try to overlook this" but to be fair, some of the stuff she wrote was pretty bad. i don't think it's a dealbreaker since they're a nice person but i don't know, that stuff just really bothers me sometimes.
DeleteI'm pretty new to the whole blogging community, so I haven't seen much in terms of drama. But you are 100% correct - it's about mutual respect. You don't have to love everyone, which is just absurd. If I had to love everyone I've met, I'd go insane. There are just some people you can't stand, period. And it's NEVER something to feel bad about, because your opinion is your opinion. As long as we keep those thoughts to ourselves and don't cross the line, we're all good.
ReplyDeleteLike you said, it's all about class. Why blow it up into some huge fight when a simple DM will suffice? We're all better off keeping it on the down low, because we don't really need that kind of drama in our life.
Claudia Victoria @ PenMarkings
I actually really dislike going public if I don't have to. Stuff like writing blog posts and calling people out make me uncomfortable. I almost NEVER make the first move. If I can, I'll sort it through DM. But if say someone tells vicious lies about me a bunch of people over group chat, it's slander and I'll have to say something about that. What I feel people don't realize is that "walking away" makes i so you don't have to deal with it, but it also means that the person causing the problem is not realizing that, "NO. You are NOT allowed to treat people this way." It's one of those things where people have to use a clear head before making a decision.
DeleteAlso, when you go public, everyone starts taking sides. I'll admit, I've totally done it. and I shouldn't - unless you're in the fight, you really shouldn't be writing posts or giving opinions about the specific problem TO the people in the fight {IMO}. I saw this happening and I'm like, "we're perfectly capable of sorting things out on our own."
No - you are not alone in this at all. I have talked about this with several blogger friends about WHY we dislike some people, and why we don't voice it. I think it's a double standard, because we go on and on and on about being honest and staying to true to self but when it comes to not liking someone? Everyone puts on those scary smiles lol
ReplyDeleteIt's a fine line and finding balance is hard. Great topic!
I don't think anyone needs to put a scary smile on. God knows I don't. If I don't like someone, I tend not to interact with them. If they interact with me, then I'll probably be polite but not inviting to stuff like, "OMG! Let's be besties!" because to me, that's dishonesty and fake. I think honesty is good but we also have to remember WHY we're being honest. If there isn't a point/we're doing it to hurt the other person, that isn't honestly. It's useless info.
DeleteI'm so glad that you decided to post this, Nova. And after reading the entire post, I like it even more!!
ReplyDeleteYou make a great point about liking vs. respect which I haven't really delineated before, I think it's really necessary (even in real life). There's one or two bloggers out there who I'm not the biggest fan of, but I will always respect them and what they're doing, because hey, we're all in this because we love books. And that's a common bond we can all respect. I actually have more of an issue with authors rather than bloggers. There are a few authors that I'm not a fan of, so I simply unfollow, and if I ever see a Tweet or something, I'll read it, think "Hey, that's their opinion", and then move on with my life. There's no need for drama or anything, and no need to point fingers. We all have opinions, and we should never be ashamed of having those opinions, but there's no need for a huge hooplah, like you mention. DMing or emailing like you did is always the best option if you just HAVE to get something off your chest.
Lovely, thoughtful discussion post as always, Nova! <33 Kudos to you for talking about something I have never seen a post on!! :D
-Aneeqah @ My Not So Real Life
When it comes to authors, it's hard to respect the authors like Kathleen Hale where she stalked a reviewer. But at the same time, I'm also not going to tweet her hate or write awful things about her months after the incident. Right? At some point, we have to move on too because they aren't worth our anger, annoyance.
DeleteHmm, I haven't experienced disliking a fellow book blogger so far actually. I tend to surround myself with people I'd like to be friends with and people I'm actually friends with and same goes with the blogging community. But if I did come across a blogger that I can't quite stand, I'd probably just not mind them at all. It's a good way to avoid conflict. :)
ReplyDeleteI try to do the same, too, but sometimes, it just happens. We stumble on something or people take things the wrong way. No one ever asks for drama so I'm really glad you haven't experienced it!
DeleteI haven't been in the blogging world very long, so I don't feel like I've had much experience with this yet. However, I think you are brave for speaking out. I agree with all your points and am sure that this will prove to be important advice to me in the future as scurcuffles with fellow bloggers are inevitable. We are after all, all human.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you haven't had much experience with this. Blogging should still be a beautiful thing and even though I no longer see the community as a perfect little cloud, I'm very glad that what I see now is closer to the truth [which is like 90% pretty cloud]
DeleteI haven't been blogging for too long but I agree with what you've said! Sometimes I see a blogger and I don't like how they express their opinions but that's just me. I'm all about being respectful towards other bloggers and authors and I've spoken to a few people who hover near the fine line between opinionated and just plain rude. I'm sure people don't like me and that's okay as long as we continue to do what we love and don't badmouth each other! It was very brave of you to post this , well done!
ReplyDeleteI think we're all entitled to our opinions and no one should shame us for disliking a person but the respect part is key. it also isn't alright to hate on someone because you don't like them. and thank you! i felt like it needed to be said (:
DeleteI have a pretty neutral opinion on all of this because there's already so much negativity in the blogging community, and I don't feel like piling more onto that. And not saying that you are, but for me (personally), it's hard to sit here and say "There are bloggers I have problems with" and not feel like I'm just contributing to the negative cycle.
ReplyDeleteAre there people I don't like? Sure. There are always people in this world that you won't like and that will bother you. It happens, and it's completely natural. But when it comes to blogging I just try and stay away from that person, or I try and not involve myself with them if I can. I don't follow them on social media, I stay away from their blog, and I just generally try not to associate with them.
Also: there have been bloggers I didn't like in the past but have since come to admire and befriend. And now I feel terrible for judging them prior to knowing them because, really, they aren't so bad.
I guess what I'm saying is yeah, it's okay to dislike other bloggers and to feel like they're not people you click with because that's life. You don't click with everyone. And especially online! Here, you can make your own space and pick and choose your peers. That's super cool, and I think it's great to surround yourself with positivity and happy people.
This comment got so hippie-ish and incredibly off-base, but whatever. You get my point. This is a good discussion and most bloggers won't talk about it because it makes waves (which the community does not like), but I do think it's a good discussion to have.
i don't really think this is negativity, to be honest. i feel really bad because it wasn't meant to come across that way. i actually wanted to be a bit more neutral but i can see where i probably went wrong. i don't think that saying "there are bloggers I have problems with" contributes to negativity unless we start naming names and talk shit about each other. i think a statement as open as that is more honest than anything else. plus, there aren't many places we can talk about it [where the situation calls for it] which is why i wrote the post.
Deleteand yeah, i totally get that. i had issues with a blogger two years ago and now we're like besties. no one should judge too hard, there's always a possibility we're wrong about a person.
I think that, not just in blogging, but in life in general, there are going to be people you love and people you hate; and there are going to be people who love you and people who hate you. There's really no way around that.
ReplyDeleteI feel like, especially in such a technology-based community like ours, it's so easy to hide behind a screen and bitch about someone because you know you'll never meet them in real life, you know? I think that's why there's so much drama and argumentation in the blogging community: because, with the protection of a screen in front of their faces, people feel more comfortable and say things they'd never say to someone's face.
Thanks for sharing this post Nova - it's really eye-opening to read; the comments included.
Yep. It almost seems like there isn't consequence to saying a bunch of negative shit. But at the same time, I like to focus on the positive - that the digital screen is the reason so many of us feel comfortable expressing opinions we'd be afraid to share. [Not me, though - I usually get into trouble]
DeleteI actually don't really care what people say to each other but when they say awful things to me, I'm like, "really? is that something you would say to my face?"
I think you're definitely right—we don't have to like every blogger we come into contact with, and we don't necessarily have "good reasons" for it sometimes. I feel a little bit at a loss on how I relate to this, because the most I ever do is leave comments on people's blogs and share their stuff on Twitter sometimes—I don't exactly have "lengthy" conversations. Still, sometimes people have opinions I don't like or share opinions that can bug me.
ReplyDeleteAt least for me, unfollowing a blog or leaving them behind is nothing personal. Here on the Internet we can escape from people we dislike pretty quickly by clicking the X in the corner—where at school you might run into people you dislike all the time, you don't have to on the Internet, and I think that's part of the reason why we seem to have this "unconditional love" persona.
Obviously, we don't have that "love" all the time, but I do think that there is something to be said about putting an emphasis on that dislike. Most of us are good people, but we can say mean things on the Internet because we don't see the faces of the people we hurt. When I see people publicly bash another blogger, even if I don't like that blogger, it seems tacky to me, and hurtful. And so, yes. We should be free to dislike bloggers and acknowledge that—but we should also remember to be tasteful when we talk about it, too. After all, the Internet can be a pretty damaging place, and you don't have to like someone to respect them.
Heck yes! People sometimes ask me, "why did you unfollow me" and GOSH I HATE IT. I'm like.... "how do I answer this without hurting your feelings?" Usually, I don't answer them at all and that also makes me feel bad. But what is there to do? I'm not going to go picking on someone because I personally don't like the way they either said something or did something.
DeleteAlso: we have to remember that everyone is always watching. Keeping things lowkey is not an option. we have the option to say whatever we want but if we'd be embarrassed if our friends/family saw it, i don't really get why people say it in the first place.
I think in ANY large group you're going to find people that don't get along. The good thing is, in this large of a group, it's pretty easy to just not associate with a person that you don't really get along with, don't like the actions of, etc. It isn't like you HAVE to see them every day, or interact with them ever. So that's a good thing, really. It's also why I can really say there are almost zero bloggers that I actually dislike. Because if someone rubs me the wrong way, I just don't follow them and they're basically out of sight, out of mind.
ReplyDeleteThat said, you'll notice I said "almost zero". Meaning not zero. Because I suppose it is also inevitable that someone who we thought we liked and had similar levels of respect with, etc. turned out to be someone other than what we'd thought. This is hard, almost the opposite of my first point, because with such a big community, it's nearly impossible to not have friends in common- and that can be really hard to navigate.
Ideally, I'd like to think everyone could just act reasonable and be civil, but the truth is that there WILL be a few people in every community that will taint it in one way or another. I suppose that the best we can do is just be our best selves. Take the high road, and know that you're probably not alone in your feelings (and this is when, for me, it is okay to take to a private message with friends about it- you don't have to hold it all in, but being respectful IS key).
But as a whole, I DO think the community shares a lot of love, and that doing so doesn't really imply that every single person loves every single other person, but that we're choosing to put the focus on the good instead of the bad- which is quite refreshing since I think a lot of other things in the world do the opposite. So yeah, I don't like every single person out there (who does, right?) but I definitely love to focus on the bloggers that I DO love, and leave the ones I don't out of my thoughts completely.
VERY thought provoking post, Nova!
Shannon @ It Starts At Midnight
Sometimes, really bad things can happen and it sucks because even though you want to avoid the person, they might pop up every so often on the page and it brings bad memories. at least, that's what happened to me a few times.
Deleteat the same time, i do agree. i think the only therapy is to surround ourselves with the people we choose to be around. we can make the choice to be positive and have that environment - might as well use it!
This is definitely an interesting topic because I relate to you in some ways. Before blogging I came a fandom where I was ready to defend my friends if they got into a twitter feud (which happened a lot...) so the blogging community has always been pretty drama-less place, to me. It's really okay to dislike someone, we're all human. We don't always get along, that's natural. It's just how we handle these situations. If someone just ignores this person and makes sure they have nothing to do with them then that's no problem. No drama there. But if someone were to write a whole line of tweets explaining how they don't like this person, there is your problem. I think it all just really depends on how people handle it. That's where the drama usually comes from. Now I do sometimes get a feeling that maybe someone doesn't like me in this community and that's all cool. Not everyone will like me and I am not objecting against that. I try to be nice to everyone I come across and just treat everyone with respect. Now once in awhile a little feud may happen and honestly, it's okay. We would seriously be some kind of dystopian community if everything worked out smoothly. As long as there a mutual understanding of "we're going to stay away from each other" or an apology between the two people who feud than it's all good. I don't know where I am going with this comment but I guess there is just some of my thoughts on disliking someone. Great post and you have the balls for doing this Nova ;)
ReplyDelete~Kaitlin @ Next Page Please!
Oh my gosh, those fandoms are wonderful and awful. I hate it when everyone feels the entitlement to get involved - like if you are not involved and the people who are can handle it, then stay in your lane. At least, that's me. i hate it when people get involved [irregardless if they're on my "side" or not.] it escalates the problem.
Deletealso, the thing about the tweets. we have to reevaluate our intentions. "why am i writing shit about another person? to embarrass them?" or "am i retaliating publicly because i want the last word? or do i want to make it known that this behaviour is not acceptable?" i would never say going public is the "wrong" thing but it's also a dangerous move when things can be easily resolved.
With the exception of bloggers who plagiarize, I wouldn't say there are any bloggers I dislike on a personal level. There are bloggers whose content I don't enjoy, but that just helps me narrow down the long list of blogs I follow! I do appreciate that the community is generally pretty classy about their relationships :)
ReplyDeleteoh gosh. even the plagiarizing bloggers, i wouldn't send them nasty emails. like, they probably already know they're wrong [esp. if they've been outed] so it's not worth it to chastise them like we're their parents, right? but yeah, disliking those people for their actions makes sense.
Delete"I don't care about what people think of me; I care about how they treat me."
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with this!!
In high school, people and movies and stuff always went on about "talking behind someones back" and how it was such a bad thing. But I always thought that was so weird... I'd be more pissed off if someone called me a bitch to my face than behind my back. And yet, movies are always like, "SAY IT TO MY FACE!!"
People are welcome to hate me - I don't care. But do it privately. If you send me a message to my face saying you hate me or calling me a bitch, then that's just flat out rude and that will piss me off.
But if you want to talk to other people behind my back about how stupid I am - I don't care, and in an ideal world, I'll never even know about it. Sooo that's fine!
i think talking about people behind their backs leads to spreading rumors and i'm honesty torn about that. a situation happened where a girl told a crapload of lies about me in the girls' changeroom before gym class. i walked in about a minute later and everyone looked at me but no one would talk to me. so i don't think i can say one is worse than the other. at the end of the day, they're both harmful - esp if it's public.
Deletetalking behind someone's back and deliberately trying to ruin my reputation clashes with the way someone treats me - even though it isn't to my face. i think that's the only explanation i can give in that situation.
This is an amazing post and it really is something that I don't think I have seen other bloggers talking about. If I am completely honest, I don't have any bloggers I dislike or have any kind of drama with. But I'm not friendly with many either because I find it hard to get to know and talk to other people enough to consider them a friend. I loved this post though because you're 100% right, you can't like everyone. I like loving and supporting other bloggers, but I feel respect is what is truly important.
ReplyDeleteI think we all have people we don't like. It's just natural. Simply because we all share a love for books, doesn't mean we all get along :) In a big group of people there are bound to be bloggers you don't like. I tend to stay away from them, because why surround yourself with bloggers that don't work for you? It bet there are more than enough people who don't like me for some reason, but I'm not going to think about that and I just enjoy the interactions I have with people I like - and how like me in return :)
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