I'm going to say it right now. I think you can guess from the title, this is a daunting topic. Let's hope I did it right. If I didn't, feel free to share your views. Despite the slight irritation in the tone of the post, I'm 100% bent on listening to all sides. Anyway, back to my main point: this post is about something that's troubled me about blogging since the beginning. I've questioned this topic over and over again - especially since I have NEVER read a post on it. That could be because I shouldn't be talking about it? But hey, since when I was ever one to follow the rules?
To put it simply: I feel like I'm the ONLY person who dislikes other bloggers.
Jeez. That was hard to get out.
My favorite thing to do is always to compare the blogging community to my friend group in school or to a workplace. Why? Because that's the easiest way to describe a group of people who [I assume] share similar interests and/or do the same things.
When I go to school, there are a million and one people who are constantly talking shit, spreading rumors and just being awful. When I got to blogging, I was surprised at how loving people are. We're spreading comment-love, following each other on twitter and squealing about books. My twitter stream is always full of normal people having fun conversations. So either they really are that loving, I'm missing all the blogger vs. blogger drama or it's very hush hush. Regardless, I've spent the past ___ years thinking that I'm the only person who gets into issues with other blogger. That I'm an asshole for disliking another blogger.
Recently, I talked to a few bloggers over DM while we vented about things we disliked in blogging. People came up and we shared experiences that happened in the past. One that I talked about was how I was accused of plagiarizing from other blogger. [We've got a mutual block goin' on.] It's one of those private conversations as I feel we are allowed to have; where "what gets said in DM, stays in DM." I quickly realized that everyone has people they dislike - but even more important is the way we treat those people in spite of disliking them.
There are quite a few bloggers that I don't see eye to eye with. Some of them, I've personally gotten into kerfuffles [lol, that word] with and I no longer want to be buddy-buddy with. Some, I just stay away from because to me, they're problematic and I don't want to be involved with that kind of drama. In one case, I feel like the blogger used me as a promotion minion! Do I still feel a little miffed when I see them somewhere: yes, I'm human. But despite all of this, I would never publicly say that, "this blogger is a (derogatory comment here.)" There is a huge difference between disliking a person and being a bad person and I have no idea why but it took me so long to realize this.
This brings me to the title of the post: The blogging community isn't unconditional love towards everyone, even though that's what it always seems like to me. We're all human and we all have our likes and dislikes. Are we classy about keeping that information to ourselves or people we trust? Hell yes. And that's why I love this place. I'm sure there are a shitload of people who dislike me and that's totally fine. I don't care about what people think of me; I care about how they treat me. And when those two ideas become both negative, that's when I have a problem.
So even though I don't have a social justice point to prove, I felt the need to write this post. To dispell the myth of, "every blogger supports/loves every blogger." And I know that's not the answer want to hear but I'd rather dish out the truth than some candy-coated downplay. There are always going to be people who don't like and people we don't want to interact with. I'm writing this for Past Nova, who constantly felt like a bad person for her feelings. You are not a bad person for disliking a blogger just like you aren't a bad person for disliking a book. I'm almost a hundred percent sure that all of us dislike some bloggers out there; we're just classy about our feelings - as we should be.