I actually usually don't have posts on Sunday, but I thought this was interesting. Plus, it's not actually a formal discussion [at least to me!] so let's put it on the off day and see what happens.
What brought this on: I'm in the middle of doing blog maintenance and I was cleaning up old posts. I still have around 200 to go, so I'm crying inside. However, I found this post that interested me so much! It's a post from August of last year, which isn't even that long ago. This post is about my commenting habits back then [it can be found here] and I wanted to write a follow up to it!
Most of the stuff I'm going to say is pretty much the same. So if I were you, I'd read THIS post before checking out the old one.
First, I comment through Bloglovin'. There's no other way I use. I hate email [things get cluttered] and my GFC is a hot mess.
Next, if I follow you, it means I'm dedicated. Like you will see me coming back for the most part. No, I will not comment on all your posts but yes, I will appreciate you for the blogger you are. I love discussion posts and will almost 100% comment on all of those. As you guys can probably tell, I love to talk!
What I don't comment on are promo posts [cover reveals etc.], posts from authors I don't recognize, adult things and book reviews on books I either haven't read or am not interested in reading. Yes, I know how to use the "mark as read" button and I'm not shy at all about using it. I've never found sense in commenting on every post because when I tried, my comments became really... fake.
Next, I don't leave links back to my blog in the comment itself unless it's part of a meme. If you leave a comment on ANY of my posts like "please check out [obnoxious link here]" and then your comment is this two sentence vague thing, I will be very upset. Not only will I not check out your blog, I'll also delete the comment and pretend nothing happened. I don't know if this is harsh, but self promo-ing on others' blogs is rude, thirsty and makes you look desperate. I don't mind it too much during memes [unless you copy and paste the same message. Then I'm pretty much blacklisting you.]
To get comments and friends, just be yourself, be interactive and don't be thirsty. Also, please please please! Appreciate the blogger you are commenting on and make that known. No matter how popular, I think every blogger wants to be told that they're relevant and commenters are the BIGGEST part of that.
|No, but seriously. I get really salty over self promo. I work my |
butt off for these posts and I cannot take inconsiderates
thinking they can get views by disregarding others' work
and making it the "me" show.
Moving on, I try to comment back. I'm not very good at it. Sometimes, I'll get this DUMP of comments [like one day, I came home from school to like fifteen comments all at once] and that'll make replying and commenting back hard. Plus, some people have blogs with posts that are out of my element, so I cannot even comment.
I'm part of the Readers In Wonderland commenting back program but most of the people who comment back are people I follow, so it isn't too big of a deal!
Unlike the old post, I don't get as salty over people not commenting back as I used to. I have to remember that I'm not commenting to get comments. I'm doing it because I appreciate the blogger. Plus, a lot of people are behind on commenting, which is totally fine. Life happens, right? Sometimes it makes me a little sad because I work on a post for forever only for it to get no attention. But most of the time, I just appreciate what I have [little or a lot.]
Lastly, and I can't believe I'm saying this, but I actually have this horrible problem. Whenever I see people who comment on a lot of my posts but don't follow me, I get this really bad feeling and I don't know why. It's like "are you just trying to be polite?" or "do you even like my blog or are you just commenting because I commented?" It's a feeling of doubt and I know, I'm a total drama queen. I don't let it bother me too much, but sometimes, it creeps in.